Age appropriate? I’ll pass thanks!

Turning 40 for me, was a strange time. I wasnt looking forward to reaching that number, but also, I felt a certain expectation on how I behaved was being placed on me. Not really by anyone else, but by me.

Yep, definitely more serious at 40


In the last couple of years of my 30’s, I started to feel that my personality somehow had to be “toned down”. Iv always been a free spirited, head strong person, and spent my late teens and early 20’s travelling the world, sleeping wherever we could afford, and partying the years away. We had a ball!

In my working life once I settled back into UK life, I was ambitious and determined, and achieved what I felt I wanted to, but in a chaotic- messy-office-drove-my-bosses-mad kind of way. Marriage and kids obviously settles you into some sort of routine, but my long suffering husband has always said he just never knows what my brain is going to think up next, and life is certainly never dull!

Approaching 40 felt weird. People started to think of you differently. I work with mostly young, 20 something’s now, and they would look at me like I was a loon when I would say that Im off on a bar crawl in London at the weekend, or flying off to Benidorm with my girlfriends for the week. It was almost like they thought “whoaaaa, slow down there Grandma”. Some of my friends even also looked at me in a wayward child, behave yourself kind of way!


The strange thing is, and anyone that is approaching or turning 40 will know, you just don’t feel any differant! Yes of course, I look in the mirror and see a few lines round my eyes, a thickening to my figure, a frown line you could park a bike in, but I dont feel like Im ready to hang up my party shoes yet! No, Im not likely to wear the same clothes that an 18 year old wears, but neither am I going to wear a twinset and pearls. So why was I feeling like I wasn’t sure what was age appropriate??

I spent the last year or two of my 30’s, and the first year of my 40’s trying a few different versions of myself on for size. I tried the sensible, only-having-one-small-glass-of-wine-at-the-weekend version, I tried the lets-be-really-cultural-and-go-to-museums-at-the-weekend version, I even tried the doing-yoga-everyday-and-being-mindfull-and-zen-at-every-minute-of-every-day version. Then late last year it hit me! All of these versions were me. They were just different sides of me, and each and every one of them was ok. Including the dance-like-no-one-is-watching-dont-take-yourself-too-seriously version. Im still just me, but older in years. So bring on the neon parties and the girls weeks of mayhem aswell as the daily meditation, the beautiful restaurants and the cosy, family nights in. All are ok.

Family portrait

It was a lovely feeling to realise that its ok to still be yourself, whatever version you fancy. Yep, I have to view the world as a grown up, I have two teenage sons to guide and parent. Yes, I also have to go to work everyday and work hard, I have bills to pay, shoes and bags to buy (and adventures to fund). I also do have to accept that my face is changing, so my makeup and skincare will change with it, but its all ok. Life is for the living, whatever your age, and if anyone wants to sit in judgement, just pass them a glow stick and invite them to the party!

Glow on!

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  1. February 27, 2017 / 8:11 pm

    Kerry just keep on being you, because you rock girl! Life is way too short not to live it to the full. The world is filled with expectations – we are told how to act, dress, walk, talk …….. enough! As mature women we have earned the right to live OUR life OUR way.

    Sure we have obligations, but we shouldn’t have to fit into a cookie cutter idea of what a 40plus (or in my case 50 plus) women ‘should’ be.

    I’ll raise a glass to not being age appropriate with you any time.

    Michelle xx

    • February 27, 2017 / 11:24 pm

      Michelle, I will gladly raise a glass with you! We do have obligations, yes indeed, but we also have a huge obligation to be happy and fulfilled too yes? I love that at our age, we are happy and willing to reveal all the bright, beautiful colours of our personalities, and stick our tongue out to those that judge. Cheers to that!

  2. Lise
    September 19, 2017 / 8:17 am

    My dad always says “you’re only as old as you feel”, he’s way in his sixties and he’s still having a blast with life.. It’s nice to see others feeling the same way! x

    • kerrylifeandloves
      September 19, 2017 / 8:27 am

      That is so blooming true! Life is to loved and lived. Thanks for reading xxx

  3. September 19, 2017 / 8:40 am

    I have those exact rainbow beads! And at the age of thirty my favourite pair of shoes are still a glittery, holographic pair of rainbow hi-tops from the children’s section of some American superstore. Loved this. You do you! All parts of you.

    • kerrylifeandloves
      September 19, 2017 / 9:06 am

      Ohh I love the sound of those shoes! Thank you so much for stopping by and reading. I think far to many people are made to feel they should be a certain way as we get older. Lets wear our beads and kick up our glittery high tops for years to come!

  4. November 17, 2017 / 11:07 am

    When I turned 40 my reaction was okay this is the package deal with it. It was for me freedom of no longer conforming for other people. Do what brings you joy regardless of age. This is our journey.

    • kerrylifeandloves
      November 17, 2017 / 3:35 pm

      Oh I totally understand those feelings too. There is definitely a sense of freedom with it. Thank you so much for stopping by and reading. Lets be non conformists together!

  5. What Abby Says
    November 17, 2017 / 12:37 pm

    Kerry age is just a number! You just keep being you! I loved this post because i dont feel my age at all. i think ill always be a bit of a child at heart and im so glad that there are others out there who feel the same way! So keep on partying. Keep on living. Keep being you x

    • kerrylifeandloves
      November 17, 2017 / 3:40 pm

      Oh thank you so much, Im glad there is more like it too, and I feel like a child at heart. Its strange isnt it, we just don’t feel any different (just wiser) which is fab! Thank you for reading,

  6. highstreetbeauty11
    November 17, 2017 / 12:54 pm

    Love the pictures in this post! I can completely identify with your feelings. You keep on being you! xxx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      November 17, 2017 / 3:41 pm

      Ah thank you my lovely friend, and Im so glad you can identify with it. 40 is not so bad is it! Thanks for reading xx

  7. November 17, 2017 / 5:53 pm

    Ah I love this 😍 you be the best you that you can be and don’t break to any ‘rules’ you are too fun and wonderful to go with what’s ‘appropriate’ life’s more fun when you’re less serious anyway!

    • kerrylifeandloves
      November 18, 2017 / 12:58 am

      Well, being as Im sitting here reading this, having just come in from a night out with my old school friends, having drunk all the gin, I would have to agree hahaha! There is still so much fun to be had! Thank you so much for reading.

  8. November 17, 2017 / 9:32 pm

    This is absolutely brilliant! As I get older sometimes I feel like certain styles, clothes, or behaviours like going clubbing are “too young” for me, then I think why? Age is just a number and you should live life to the fully regardless of your years!

    • kerrylifeandloves
      November 18, 2017 / 12:55 am

      Ohhhh yes! You are talking my language. I think we worry too much about the expectations society puts on us dont we. Lets kick up our heels and party on! Thank you for reading xxx

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