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……and a few reasons that it drives me nuts.
Blogging, its a funny ole game isn’t it. I blooming love it as it satisfies my love and need to write. What about you? Why do you blog? Id love to hear why you started? These are some of the reasons I love it, feel free to chip in…..
I haven’t met loads of bloggers in real life yet, but those that I have are wonderful people, and I have developed lovely friendships with a few of them. I have met many more online, and I feel a genuine warmth, interest and respect in them. I love the diversity in the people that you can meet through blogging. I have my little “cyber family” where I feel I have a few more kids that make me laugh with their antics, ask me advice and that I feel a protectiveness and strong need to support in their journey. I have a few fellow bloggers of similar age to me that I chat with on a regular basis, that have an understanding of how it feels when fear sets in over our kids taking their next steps, understand the changes our body goes through as we get older, or ask how Im feeling with my husbands illness. I have my “nut nut gang” that make me laugh every day because they have the same twisted, dark humour as me and totally get my sarcastic tone (so many don’t) I have a little support network that genuinely care about me and my blog, and we all share our knowledge and findings so far in this blogging thang (my input is less here as my knowledge is pretty poor, but Im slowly learning) So many people that brighten my days. I love, love, love that I have “met” them, and look forward to meeting many more.
I love writing blog posts. Whether its a simple make up or product review, or something a little deeper, I love it. The need in me to write is strong, (its well documented that I am determined to finish the book that Im writing….one day lol) so writing blog posts fulfils that need. I do enjoy writing the product reviews, but I must admit my heart will always be with the posts that inspire discussion and engagement. I love a chat!
I am not the most self confident person. I can easily talk myself out of going to something that involves me having to interact with people that I don’t know. I have turned down so many invites to things over the years, in life as well as blogging, because my fear gets the better of me. Blogging has made me address that fear. As a blogger, you do get invited to things, and the likelihood is, you wont know anyone there initially. That terrified me. The very first event I went to was a bloggers event in Essex, and I was absolutely bricking it. I cannot tell you the relief I felt when a lovely girl came straight up to me and said Oh Hi Kerry, I recognise you from your photo on twitter. I will always love and be grateful to Hannah (from Hannah Talks) for doing that. I have attended a few more events since, pushing myself to go, and they have all been amazing and the other bloggers so lovely. Blogging has helped me no end with addressing this fear, and I love it for that.
I have read blogs for many years, but mainly make up and beauty blogs. Since I started blogging, and the interaction with other bloggers, I have been introduced to many more subjects. I have found that I have a real, growing interest in learning photography, I am enjoying finding healthy eating blogs and meal ideas, interiors blogs I am developing a slight obsession with, and blogs that tell me more about my local area and restaurants are becoming my go to for reviews. Its brilliant.
This was something I didn’t know would come into its own this year. Blogging was all about the writing for me, but with what unfolded this Summer, it also became a beautiful distraction. Summer was shit for us, and the months following have been rough. When Im home and its quiet, perhaps the boys are out and Nik is unwell, rather than let my mind and fears run away with me, I open up my laptop and click away on those little keys and it all seems ok. Im not a massive tv lover, and sometimes my mind cant focus enough to read, so this little blog of mine has become my saviour. I love it more for that.
I am the Queen of chaos. Im the woman that has sent her kids to school on non-pupil days. I write things down, but forget to then look at my diary or calendar. yep, Im that woman. My husband says I rebel against order and routine, and he is probably right, but blogging has made me more organised. I have a planner, (but dont use it to its full capacity) I have a product basket for items I want to review, I have cleared out my make up drawers and organised it all. I have cleared out my wardrobes and got them organised. All because of blogging! Blogs I read as well as getting some order to posts I write. It has been a revelation. I don’t really have a blogging schedule, Iv not got that organised yet, but that might be something I do next year. Slow progress people, slow progress!
I have never, ever had an interest in computers, social media or anything remotely technical. When I had my business, I had a member of staff that looked after all the social media stuff, so never got involved other than to plan the promotions etc. I have learnt more than I could have ever imagined in the last year! I am proud of the fact that I researched and learnt a lot of it myself. Google has been my best friend! I understand google analytics, I know what a media kit is, I am slowly understanding and learning advertising law and am just getting my head around how my camera works! I am still not a huge fan of social media, (although am beginning to love twitter) but do understand its partnership with having a blog. I am determined to build on my understanding on how social media works next year! Im rubbish.
I feel I have learnt so much this year, about myself and about life in general. I have even learnt incredibly valuable awareness, like how to make blogs easier to read for blind people, and how life can be challenging for people with physical disabilities. Iv made some blogging buddies that live that as their reality, and they are helping me have a better understanding. Its been a real eye opener, and I hope, made me more aware and compassionate.
Earlier this year, I did a self imposed spending ban, which taught me that I am perfectly capable of not shopping on a weekly basis. It also showed me that I use shopping to bury emotion! Now I don’t. I have learnt that I am capable of learning new things, that I really didn’t think were for me, so should give everything a go. I have discovered that If I push myself out of my comfort zone, beautiful things happen. So very many things I have learnt and discovered. I feel my life is richer for it. Who would have thought it when I pressed publish on that first post a year ago.
I hate that I struggle so much with anything technical. My photography is one area in particular that frustrates me. I get a vision, I know what I want the finished photo to look like, and, well, it just dosent so I end up settling for something that is ok, back in my comfort zone, but dosent rock my world. I don’t understand the light properly. I don’t understand how to photograph reflective surfaces without it flashing back, I cant get a decent photo of make up on my face. So many things! I have booked and paid for a one day workshop in London, but have had to postpone it while there was so much going on. I will get it done early next year i hope.
Time. The one thing I think most of us need more of. I know Im not alone in struggling to find the time to do decent photographs. The words I can get done very quickly, but blog photos are my nemesis. I schedule a couple of hours into my day to do them, then I wake on that day to find it grey and overcast and not suitable at all! Like so many of us bloggers, I do work as well, so don’t have the luxury of having every day available for blog work. The struggle is real fellow bloggers eh?
Its made me even more of a procrastinator. If that is even possible! I find that I can sit and muse over something Iv seen, read, heard for blooming hours now I write on a regular basis. Its like my brain instantly thinks, oh, but whats the meaning in that, and I deliberate it all in my brain for 6 hours, getting nothing done! Drives me crazy.
So, thats it! My journey with blogging has been a wonderful, fulfilling, enlightening one. I bloody love it! It will always only be a wonderful hobby for me, I wouldn’t want the pressure of having to produce content, but I adore it. I am grateful for the people it has brought into my life, the crutch it has provided me with during tough times, and Im grateful for the lessons it has taught me.