Setting Goals for The New Year – Not a Resolution in Sight

I absolutely love the start of a New Year. It feels so full of promise, so full of potential. I always feel like anything is possible. I don’t tend to make New Years resolutions as, quite frankly, I don’t stick to them and I don’t think thats a particular positive start to a year. Instead, I like to make plans and set goals.

So, for my last post of 2017, I thought I would share some with you. If they are written down, they gotta happen, right?….

General Life

I am determined in the new year, to have at least one thing in the diary for every month thats a little different to the normal things we do. For example, one of the things that I got Nik for Christmas this year was a tour of Churchill’s War rooms in London. (It sounds amazing and we love a bit of history in our house). This we are looking to do in February. We have a trip to Bath scheduled for May. I want us to experience something or somewhere new every month. Life is bloody short, we need to collect experiences, not things eh? This is something I am determined to do 2018.

My Job

I changed my job beyond all recognition this last year. I closed my business and went to work from a little room that I have built in my garden. It is stress free and calm. I work 30 hours a week, and I am looking to reduce this a little next year. Not by much, but just a few hours. I really enjoy my work, but my body physically aches at the end of the week, massage and facials are hard on a therapists body, and after 18 years, many, many 60+ hour weeks, my body is tired! I hope to start my slightly reduced hours from February. I also have had a new little business idea that I have been trying to get off the ground on and off, for 18 months. I am determined to focus on getting that sorted the early part of the new year.


Blimey, this paragraph could go on for two pages, so I will attempt to keep it short. I love to travel. I love to discover new places, find fabulous cities. Nik, and my sons, all share this passion. Our exploring didn’t go quite to plan in 2017, so we have a bit of catching up to do in 2018. As soon as Nik gets the go ahead that he can travel abroad, we are off! Id like to ideally try to do 3 or 4 foreign trips next year, but thats ambitious and may not be achievable! Unless I win the lottery, (which incidentally, I don’t do) Gotta aim big eh! Places on my hit list for next year include Brugge, Cape Verde, Venice, Paris, Florence, ohhh so many places! Lets see what happens.

Expanding my knowledge

I absolutely love to learn new things. Every year, I try to learn something new. I really cant decide what I want to learn in 2018. I keep being drawn towards doing a simple dress making type class. I have visions of being able to customise and “up-cycle” clothes, as well as being able to whip up a top or dress. In reality, I will probably have limited, clumsy ability that ruffles up a leg warmer or something. I did do soft furnishings a few years back, and loved it, so we will see. Learning to make jewellery also appeals to me. Actually, I think maybe Im a frustrated crafter….  I also want to read more. I used to read loads, but I have struggled to focus this year, so I have bought and been gifted a few books lately. Im determined to read them. I absolutely love getting lost in a book, especially books that make me think or look at things differently. I cant wait!

My Blog

I absolutely love blogging, and plan on continuing with it. I hope to get a little more structure next year, just for my own sanity and organisation really. Life with kids, a job, a husband (with a long list of hospital appointments), home duties, having a social life and general life admin is fricking busy! I do struggle with finding time, so I think a little structure might help me out a bit. I plan to continue writing about whatever I fancy, keeping my integrity and just enjoying it. I hope to do a little more collaboration posts, (not to the point where every item is gifted/sponsored etc, I promise you that) but it will only be with things that really interest me or I truly love. As long as I can keep writing, I will be happy. One area that I really do want to understand more, is bloody Instagram. I just don’t like it much. I find it lacks soul and “real-ness”. My friend tells me I just haven’t found my groove with it yet, so, this is something I will be trying to do. Im gonna experiment a bit with it. Bare with..

My Wellbeing

Its safe to say, my wellbeing has been put slightly on the back burner in 2017. I can remember at one point, thinking how bad my hair looked and felt. It dawned on me in November that I had not had my hair cut or tended too in any way, for over a year. I have not eaten healthily, not been to yoga or done any exercise, most of the year. Thats gotta change, as I am very aware, that an unhealthy me is not useful to anyone. My plan is to get back to eating healthily, thats a given, but also get back to yoga. I have found someone that teaches on a one to one basis, which will probably suit me better as I struggle to commit to a regular class at the moment. Im so excited to get back to it. Im also going to not feel guilty if I have a sneaky afternoon reading, watching films, window shopping etc

My Time

I have an admission. I am the least organised person in the universe. Not in my work, Im very organised with that, but with my general time management. I procrastinate, I get distracted, I have my head in the clouds most of the time. A job that should take an hour, can take me three hours. My Mum has always told me that if I was more organised my life would be easier. She is of course right. I almost feel like I need a “life manual” haha! A book that organises me. Maybe thats my key! Maybe I should write myself a life manual. Ohhhh I could have hit on something here…….. In all seriousness, I am going to organise myself better. Yep. Defo. 100%. Just as soon as I think about it for an hour or so…

My Buying

I learnt a lot this last year about my spending habits. You may recall that I did a month of no make up spending, then a further month of no spending at all. It taught me a lot. You can read about it in this post, My No Make Up Buying Month I plan on being more mindful with what I buy and spend, and I am also going to be more conscious of the things I do buy. My intention is to switch to completely cruelty free make up and beauty products from now on, so my make up buying will be made with more awareness. Im


So thats it really. I am looking forward to the New Year. People say all the time “oh next year will be amazing, just you wait” and they may well be right. But, in truth, I would be over the moon if next year was just calm, gentle with us, stress free. Im not hoping or asking for the world in 2018.  If 2017 taught me anything, its that some of the things I gave value and importance too, really, just have no importance! I will wait until 2019 for amazing…….

The start of the new year is shaping up pretty well to be fair. We have a few things planned, as well as Nik hopefully finishes chemo in March, my eldest turns 18, my brother gets married to someone we all cant wait to become an official part of the family, its all good.

I wish you all an amazing New Years Eve, however you see in the new year. Best wishes to each and every one of you for the New Year. Much love xxxxx



  1. December 31, 2017 / 11:16 am

    Instagram is such a weird one, I know what you mean about not quite feeling at one with it yet – I post pictures every so often but I don’t find that it really gives me satisfaction at all. All the best with your business idea and getting it off the ground, I can’t wait to see where it takes you. Happy New Year lovely xxx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      December 31, 2017 / 12:53 pm

      Happy New Year to you too my lovely. I am not letting Instagram beat me, I am determined haha. I love the interaction that I get on there, people chat and converse with me on it, so Im not sure what I cant gel with. I will keep trying xxx

  2. Jean
    December 31, 2017 / 11:27 am

    Another excellent post to read, look forward to hearing what you’re up to in 2018, once again, happy HEALTHY new year to you all

    • kerrylifeandloves
      December 31, 2017 / 12:47 pm

      Thank you very much! All the best for the New Year to you too Jean. Thank you for your support on my little blog this year xxx

  3. Karen
    December 31, 2017 / 12:47 pm

    Loved reading this Kerry.

    I stumbled upon ‘Yoga with Adriene’ earlier in the year. She’s an American, the yoga is great, she can be a bit goofy at times and has a yoga flow for any topic/event you can think of! I now practice ‘almost’ every day – a class on Sunday, with Adriene the rest of the week. You can find her on FB & YouTube. I’ve found it’s made an amazing difference to me this year.

    Wishing you all a happy, healthy 2018 xx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      December 31, 2017 / 12:56 pm

      Ohh really? Thats sounds fab. Im hoping to do a one to one class with a lady I have found once a week, then practise another couple of times a week from youtube. Thank you for the suggestion, I will look her up. Wishing you a Happy New Year too xxx

  4. January 1, 2018 / 5:00 pm

    Hi Kerry,
    Really enjoyed reading this post, and identified with a lot of what you’ve written.
    I love the beginning of the year, making plans and looking ahead with a new enthusiasm.
    As for blogging and Instagram – whoa! I’m just tip toeing gently into it, but it’s like a game that I don’t quite know the rules to!!
    Anyway Happy New Year (again!) and hope you have a lovely evening.
    Liz x

    • kerrylifeandloves
      January 1, 2018 / 7:16 pm

      Thank you so much Liz, Im so glad you enjoyed the post, thank you for reading x. I totally agree with your analogy, its exactly like playing a game we dont know the rules to haha. Well Liz, my knowledge is limited, but please feel free to shout if there is anything I might be able to help with. We can learn together! I hope 2018 is amazing for you xxx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      January 2, 2018 / 4:11 pm

      I really hope so Delyth! I think I have set them to be achievable. Im excited! Thank you for reading x

  5. January 3, 2018 / 10:21 am

    These are all great goals. I am a big procrastinator as well and time just always seems to fly by. So I have myself a new diary and I’m trying to be more scheduled. I hope you do find a way to take lots of trips this year. xx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      January 3, 2018 / 9:52 pm

      Procrastination is the worst isnt it, its a stealer of time! Iv already got a couple of bits in the diary, so we are off to a start! I think a new diary is always quite motivating, so thats a good move. I hope you have an amazing 2018, thanks for reading xx

  6. Culture and Couture (@CoutureCulture_)
    January 3, 2018 / 11:23 am

    Your blogs are always so interesting! I’ve been thinking about my new years goals for a few days but I really want to find something that I’ll actually manage to stick to so this has been great inspiration. I’m halfway through my switch to cruelty free makeup and am trying to consciously shop less (it’s not going well so far) but it’s such a worthy goal! Good luck with 2018 ! xoxox

    • kerrylifeandloves
      January 3, 2018 / 9:56 pm

      Ohhhh thank you, thats so nice of you to say. Oh maybe we can share tips on switching to cruelty free. So many of the brands that I thought were ok, seems they are not! I love setting goals. Thanks for reading xx

  7. January 3, 2018 / 12:05 pm

    Great goals Kerry, good luck with them!! I have also set myself some goals for 2018 and I want to do a post every two months about how I’m doing with them… just to keep myself on point (and to have a few more posts for my blog!). Perhaps you could also do a ‘revision’ every once in a while to remind you of your goals during the year??
    Brugge is adorable 🙂 you’ll love it!!

    • kerrylifeandloves
      January 3, 2018 / 10:00 pm

      Oh thats such a great idea Kathleen, its kind of like checking in with ourselves isnt it. I may do the same in my new journal I started. Great tip. All the best with your goals too, it feels exciting! Thanks for reading xx

  8. January 3, 2018 / 12:08 pm

    great goals. I love the idea of something new every month as so many places in our own area I haven’t been or haven’t been back in years. Travel is always on my list and structure for sure. Looking forward to 2018 and making it happen.

    • kerrylifeandloves
      January 3, 2018 / 10:04 pm

      Travel, its just soul food isnt it. Im so excited to see where we can get to this year. The early part of last year we started “exploring our own back yard” and discovered some great places. Its such a good thing to do. I wish you a fantastic 2018, thank you for reading xx

  9. A Little Driftless
    January 3, 2018 / 1:23 pm

    I really appreciate how well rounded your goals are! I used to love Instagram, but I have felt really disenchanted as well. I understand everyone only posts the best aspect of their lives, but it seems too pristinely overdone & a platform for advertisements lately.

    • kerrylifeandloves
      January 3, 2018 / 10:08 pm

      Ahh than you, I love setting goals. Oh Im glad you understand where I am coming from regarding Instagram. I really am going to try and learn to love it this year though, lots of trial and error I think. Thank you so much for stopping by and reading, much appreciated x

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