What Does Your Version of Blog Success Look Like?

Id be interested to know what the very first, knee jerk answer that popped into your head when you read that question was. The reason I would be so interested in that answer, is I feel that many people feel they can’t be honest when they answer this, especially in the current climate of distrust bloggers are up against. They feel it has to be prettied up a bit, perhaps a little smoke and mirrors added to deflect from the REAL way they would like to answer that question. So, I invite you to grab your cuppa, settle in for a chat and be completely, totally honest with what your version of blog success looks like, not to tell me necessarily, but to admit to you. Lets jump on in….

The blogging/influencer/instagrammer industry is taking a hammering at the moment. Almost daily there is an article or a name and shame type of post being put out there, usually detailing the “calculated and devilish” ways that people in the industry are “conning” people out of their hard earnt cash. Its led to all manor of discussions and denials, but, in truth, some of it I have to agree with! As I have said a gazillion times, if you bring money into anything, the game changes. Simple as that. No if, buts or maybe’s, the game is different.

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I have read blogs for almost 10 years now, and the changes I have seen in that time, make blogs as they are now unrecognizable from what they were. Im not saying that this is a bad thing, its progress, but people are coming into “influencing” (I hate that word with every ounce of my being) for very different reasons now. I don’t intend to discuss that in this post, but I feel it needed to be said to set the scene for what I am really here for. Asking you to be honest with yourself and what success is to you!

I suppose for me, if I look at the original reason that I started my blog, (to get me writing on a regular basis so that I finish my damn book) and compare the here and now against that goal, then I have failed. Failed miserably. I have not written much more of my book…….Epic and total fail.

what does your blog success look like

If I compare my blogs success against things that the experts tell me I should have, a blog niche (fail), regular passive income from affiliate marketing (fail), a gazillion strangers following me on social media (fail), various brand PR’s on speed dial (fail, fail, fail) then I am not really doing my best work here am I? Im seemingly on the ropes, ready to throw the towel in at my epic fail.

Only, Im not! Im not thinking that way at all, and in fact, blow my own trumpet and call me a marching band, Im bloody proud of this little blog and I do consider it a success! So, because I am asking you for total honesty, its only fair I too am honest. Lets start with what the industry considers success….

So, in terms of income, Im not precious over things like that, so I am happy to discuss it with you. If you want more in depth details in any area, message me. Im happy to talk honestly with you

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lets have an honest discussion

I do get a little, tiny amount through my affiliate links, so I love that this keeps my blog a “free” hobby still. Affiliate links for those scratching their heads, is where I link to a product that I talk about or recommend. If you should then decide to buy it, I get pennies, and I promise you it is pennies, in commission at no extra cost to you. Im always beyond grateful when someone buys through my links. My hosting is around £100 a year, so every little helps! The money that affiliate marketing provides, (last year my earnings from this were just over £80) helps cover my blog hosting each year, so that is a success.

Sponsored content – This is when a brand contacts you to work on a post in collaboration with them. Payment can be in money, gifted products or both. I am very, very fussy about who I do sponsored or collaboration content with, and I promise you, I turn down far more than I accept. Not because I am a primma donna , but because I don’t want my blog to become a sales platform, I don’t want to be restricted on what I write about (sponsored content often wants to dictate a little what you write) and I don’t want to be stressing about GETTING sponsored content. I just want to enjoy writing my blog. No stress, no pressure, no losing my voice. Having said that, I have done some collaborations that spoke to me in some way, (and they do pay more than affiliate marketing for sure), and enjoyed them, and I hope to do a few more this year.

what does your blog success look like

Social media – I am a slow burner on social media for sure. I know that I dont put the effort in, and am accepting of the fact that my 30 minutes a day that I give to social media will not help me grow in a hurry. I have about 5000 followers across all of my channels, but I am ok with that. My views per month on my blog, the thing that I am passionate about, is beyond that so I will live with being a social media plodder. I will not waste precious hours of my time on an app on my phone, obsessing about likes and followers. No way jose. Life is too bloody short for that.

Happiness – I am happy. My blog brings me happiness and I just love writing it. I have met many fabulous people through it, I have learnt more about myself through it, I have pushed myself out of my comfort zones through it, therefore growing as a person. All of that is fantastic and worth far more to me than money or thousands of followers on Instagram. Happiness is my drug, a million percent.

Fulfilment – One of the best moments for me with my blog has been when a cancer charity contacted me to ask if they could use my Open Letter to Cancer post on their website and in their marketing. They told me that they thought it could offer hope and strength to other people going through what we are. Honestly, from the bottom of my heart that was my moment. That was when I realised that actually, my blog means a lot to me, but it also means something to others. It offers something. I get some beautiful emails and messages after some posts I write too. People telling me that something resonated or helped them in some way. That means the world to me. I keep all of the emails in a folder on a computer, just to remind me that I provide something to someone. I also get to share some of the opportunities I am offered with my family/friends (including a trip to Portugal I took my Mum on) so it’s amazing to add experiences for them too. That is success on a huge level to me.

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Iv been able to take friends\family to trips etc

Moving forwards – I would be lying if I didn’t say that I would like to earn a little regular income from my blog. I think that saying that makes people distrust bloggers motives, but I hope that you all know me well enough by now to know I would never “sell out” I will always stay true to my ethics, and something has to mean something to me to write about it. But, to keep it paying for itself, and maybe cover the travel costs if I go into London for an event, that would be fab. At the end of the day, we all need money to be able to live the life we want (I’m not talking material things here, I’m talking experiencing things), so money has to factor in. I have a day job that pays my bills, so having a little extra via my blog to pay for days out etc, well, that would be great. I am a true advocate of the thinking that money doesn’t bring you happiness, but days out, travel, experiencing things does, so a bit of extra cash wouldn’t hurt!

I would also of course, love to have more readers on the blog. I write to be read, that is the truth of the matter. Don’t get me wrong, I would write anyway, whether one or twenty people read it, but more readers would be great. I want to connect, and offer something, and as always, encourage as many people as I can to just live their lives as fully as possible. More readers gives me more chances to do that.

So tell me, (or be honest with yourself), what would be your idea of your blogs success. Remember, no one has a right to judge you so whatever it means to you is your right answer. Are you looking for it to be your job? Do you want to leave the 9-5 and be full time? Is it to help you on your cv to bag your dream job? Is it for the free stuff? Are you a frustrated author like me? Is it just an enjoyable hobby for you? Tell me what your blog’s success looks like to you


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  1. March 26, 2019 / 10:45 am

    I’m so pleased your post has got the recognition it deserves and I’m positive it will help many others. Well done Kerry! Blog-wise you definitely sound like you have your head screwed on. I’m slightly different in that I know my niche, I’ve always said from the start I want to build a business, although I’m not quite sure of my path yet. Ultimately, however it happens, I would love to eventually financially support my husband in building his dream career. However, like you, I will never compromise my values or ethics – I think that’s integral to my well-being. I love that your blog means something, it really comes across xxx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      March 26, 2019 / 3:36 pm

      Thank you so much Alex, and thank you for your honesty. So many worry about saying what they want, perhaps through fear of judgement, but there will be none of that here. I love that you have a definite goal in mind, I think that is powerful and I wish you all the very best in achieving that. You know you have my support if there is anything I can do xx My blog has become so much to me, for so many reasons that I didn’t know it would, so I appreciate your kind words about it, thank you xxx

      • March 27, 2019 / 8:56 am

        Thank you Kerry, I really appreciate it and I hope you know that support from me is offered to you too xxx

  2. March 26, 2019 / 10:54 am

    I’m always glad when I see a “Cuppa and chat” post from you! 🙂
    Blog success I suppose depends on your goals with the blog. I have two blogs and they have different goals, and different criteria for success.
    With my personal blog, I mainly want to share my experiences with my move to Ireland and my move towards quality of life and a more sustainable lifestyle – blog success here means to have returning readers who leave comments. I don’t really care about my number of “followers” on my Mailchimp list – that is only a measure of how many used that sign-up form, and I use that service because some people appreciate having a follow-by-email service, for the convenience. I have none on that list at the moment but I know a few people who visit and read my blog. Actually those few people are the reason why I continue to write a blog! We’ve been reading each other’s blogs for years and they have always been following me despite my frequent breaks and domain/platform changes! If the blog helps me connect with new people, that’s blog success to me too. I don’t expect to earn money from it but if it would happen in the future, that would be a bonus of course. I’m like you though – I’ll never sell out and change my content for the sake of money.

    As for my whiskey blog, success is different. I write my whiskey blog because it’s a good way for me to learn more about whiskey (I need to do my research for the posts), to connect with people in the world of Irish whiskey, and to “market” myself as someone who is passionate and at least somewhat competent about Irish whiskey.
    With the whiskey blog I feel I have a bit of success every time people on Twitter somehow reacts, and especially if they retweet, my tweets where I link to my blog posts, if there’s conversation, but even more if people out there know about my blog. I’ve always thought I’m quite “small” in the blogging world but I’ve understood recently that my blog isn’t too unknown.. several times I’ve met people in distilleries, whiskey bars or similar in Ireland and had a good chat about whiskey, then when I give them my card or we exchange social media details they say “oh, I think I follow you on Instagram!” or similar.. We met a guy in a bar recently who was there to offer tasting of gin and vodka for a company he works for. He visited my blog and then said that he thinks my articles are really good and that I definitely should start writing again (I’ve been passive since November) and that good whiskey bloggers are very sought after – that really inspired me. Also, my husband ran into a lady (brand ambassador I suppose) from Midleton distillery and they had a chat – he told her that he doesn’t know so much about whiskey but that his wife blogs about whiskey, and I think he had also said that we’re Swedish. And the lady said something like “oh, is that the Irish drams blog – I know about that one. Tell her she should start blogging again! “.. THIS. This is blog success to me.
    With the whiskey blog, earning money could possibly be interesting and possible without “selling out”, because it’s a niche blog after all. If I get offers and find a good way of doing it, it may happen. But – success will still be about what I described above.

    • kerrylifeandloves
      March 26, 2019 / 3:41 pm

      Ahhh Susanne you know I appreciate you so much, so I am glad you like these posts. I do too. I love to hear what my readers think and feel. Its important to me that they see this section as much theirs as mine. I think you have the best of both worlds there! Your niche is so specialised with the Whiskey, and then you have the more personal Ireland one. Sounds like an ideal mix. I really think that you should get writing again, but then you know I feel that way… Your move to Ireland especially, could see a great jump in recognition for your Whiskey blog, get writing lovely lady! Do it! Thank you so much for your honest and informative answer. Its so interesting to see what others think xxx

      • March 26, 2019 / 4:44 pm

        The personal blog is open btw 🙂 I just need to write more articles but it’s open! And I just posted on the whiskey blog something for those who fancy gin…

        • kerrylifeandloves
          March 26, 2019 / 5:16 pm

          Ohhhhhh now, gin is ma thing…………

  3. March 26, 2019 / 10:55 am

    By the way – I’m so, so glad for you about that cancer charity and how they could use your post to help others!! I can imagine that must have been fantastic for you!! <3

    • kerrylifeandloves
      March 26, 2019 / 3:43 pm

      Honestly Susanne, I think I cried for a whole day. I was so overwhelmed and blown away that they thought it could help people. That is totally what I am about. A real pinch me moment for me xxxx

  4. March 26, 2019 / 11:18 am

    Loved reading this! I may have been blogging for only two years but I have been reading blogs for years. With the increase in the internet and social media the focus of what blogs were has really changed. If you can make money from it everyone will want to do it and I constantly see the same content being churned out by bloggers again and again. I think to be a successful blogger in 2019 you have to just be you be creative with your content and you can’t have the intention of doing it to make money. Yes money and opportunities will come once you grow. But I see bloggers who are out for the money all of the time and their content is not interesting when you know they have been paid to write ’21 greatest Honeymoon destinations’ even if they are not married or engaged.

    • kerrylifeandloves
      March 26, 2019 / 3:47 pm

      Yes I see exactly what you mean with that kind of content Chloe. I think those sort of posts are fuelled by things like “experts” telling them their blog titles must be this that and the other. You only have to look at Pinterest to see that the “ten ways to blah blah are done to death. Personally, I couldn’t write anything that doesn’t light my fire. I don’t feel I could be sincere with it. Thank you so much for reading, and your thoughts on this. I really appreciate it xxx

      • March 26, 2019 / 3:59 pm

        Exactly! I could give you a post on 10 blogging tips but Im sure there are 200+ online somewhere! No problem Kerry it was a great read x

        • kerrylifeandloves
          March 26, 2019 / 5:15 pm

          Thank you so much xx

  5. March 26, 2019 / 6:29 pm

    I always love reading your posts lovely – and I’ve let mine slip big time. Right now blog success for me is feeling like I’ve inspired or helped someone. I always get the most pleasure in helping, supporting or inspiring others so one day I want to be back there doing that again. You are absolutely fantastic at doing this by the way – so please keep up the epic work!

    • March 28, 2019 / 8:30 am

      Lauretta you have helped and inspired me many times, so you have definite success there! Your bog will be there when the storms pass, don’t stress xxxxx Thank you so much for your kind words, I really hope I carry on feeling inspired to write this little blog of mine xxx

  6. March 26, 2019 / 10:55 pm

    For me it’s recognition. I don’t earn a fortune from the blog for all the hours I put in! But recognition pays me the hugest reward. I just want to get out there, hey I’m nearer sixty than fifty and I’m alive and don’t need to wear nitty nora tights and a headscarf because of that. To tell women it’s never to late to start on that skincare and it’s still ok to dress in classic style but here’s how to do it. I’m most probably one of the least coolest fashion bloggers out there but I’m happy. And I found readers that like the look too xx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      March 27, 2019 / 8:32 am

      I love your blog Laurie! I think you have a great mix of fashion and beauty, and of course, you look blooming fabulous! I think that people love your blog because you have a classic, elegant style. Ohhhh, and your very cool actually xx Thanks for reading x

  7. March 27, 2019 / 3:22 pm

    A good question!

    I don’t feel sad that to some extent the “influencer bubble” has burst. A lot of people were being honest with their readers and viewers. A lot weren’t. If you’re doing anything like affiliate links or sponsored posts, and I do them too occasionally, but if you do that kind of thing, your readers are like your customers and they deserve the truth.If you want people to believe you have integrity, like trust, it’s something you have to earn.

    I have two blogs. One is linked to my business, and as well as helping people out, my main goal for that one is helping people to find out about my training. I think that’s fair. The blog articles hopefully add value and are free. If you want more, you can sign up for a course. Nice and simple!

    My other blog is my private space on the internet. I’ve had a couple of lovely collaborations with brands, but most of the things are products I’ve bought myself and want to talk about. I could make more money on it than I do, but it’s not my job, and I don’t want to sell myself out and push products that I’d never use, or where I’m not behind the ethics of the brand, or it would just look weird alongside all the other things I write.

    I think it must be really hard to rely on a blogging income. Some people do it very well, but to be as choosy as you’d want to be and still make a living from it – that’s not as easy as some people seem to think it should be.

    Anyway I think you’re one of the people who really gets it right. You’re interesting, you make me smile and at the same time talk about some really important things, you don’t come across as pushing sales, and you have a lovely personality that comes through in your writing. We need more people like you to keep the blogging sspace interesting and believable. XXX

    • kerrylifeandloves
      March 27, 2019 / 3:41 pm

      Ohhhh Kirsty, what a lovely compliment you have given me, thank you so much. My integrity is incredibly important to me, so I have so glad that you feel that way. I don’t have an issue with people earning from their blogs, but like you, feel that some are always selling something. I hate that their is a distrust of bloggers simmering, but can understand it fully. I dont trust some myself! I think success looks different to everyone, so it is really interesting to hear everyones views, thank you for yours xxxxx

  8. March 27, 2019 / 6:47 pm

    Kerry, I love this post and your honesty! For me I think I initially wanted to be a huge IG success and collaborate with lots of brands and have lots of subscribers to my blog. Don’t we all! But as time has gone on, I’ve come to realise them most important thing to be is creating a platform and portfolio of my work. I love to write and have decided to focus on that, and with a bit of luck, that will leads me to earning an income from my blog 😊

    • kerrylifeandloves
      March 27, 2019 / 11:04 pm

      Jas thank you so much for reading, and Im so glad you like this post. It really is subjective isn’t it, what success means to all of us. I think we can all get lulled into thinking that we should be chasing those collabs etc, but for some of us, we just want to write don’t we! I think as long as we are happy, then that is success. I also think we can change our mind as we go along haha! Thank you for reading xx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      April 1, 2019 / 8:16 am

      Thank you so much for popping across to read. I am glad you enjoyed it

  9. April 2, 2019 / 3:04 pm

    I love #travellinkup because I get to read new blogs…and thanks to this months, I found yours! This has to be the nicest post I have read in a long time. You have just made me smile because I resonate with everything written here, especially that of wasting precious hours on an app for likes and follows. I started my blog when blogging wasn’t even a “thing”…to share information on my travels because people kept asking me for tips, to inspire others to travel even with a 9-5, and to prove to some naysayers that travel far and wide IS possible on a Kenyan passport (because the theory is with all the visa applications we need to make, travel is near impossible). Over the years, I haven’t put in a lot of hours on my blog because it is a passion and doesn’t earn me income and so it often gets relegated to the back burner in favour of my day job. And that sometimes disappoints me. Your post has reminded me of my WHY. And is the much needed inspo I need to try and become a little more consistent with my writing simply because it makes me happy and helps me focus on the key reasons why I started blogging in the first place, almost 7 years ago now! I shall be following your blog now because this is so authentic, it is the kind of stuff someone like me needs to hear. Thank you xoxoxo

    • kerrylifeandloves
      April 2, 2019 / 4:14 pm

      Oh Harpreet thank you so so much for these lovely words! You have made my day! I absolutely love that my post has made you remember your Why, we can all get so lost in thinking we need to be chasing likes etc, that we forget that our first love is actually writing! I am thrilled that you have found me, and I you. Thank you so much for leaving such a beautiful comment, and for reading xxx

  10. April 10, 2019 / 8:41 am

    Hi Kerry Ive enjoyed reading this ive only just come across your blog, as I found you on IG via your mum, I think you have a fab sense of humor and love your IG stories. Anyway I have been blogging for a while and find it is a tough one to crack these days with all thats around, I started mine as all I wanted to do was to share with everyone what I love, I would be a liar if I said I didnt want anything out of it as it would be nice to earn something even if it was just to pay for the fees of my blog. But im very new to all of that and im trying to learn how to get affiliate links etc, as ive only recently gone self hosted. I get so much plessure writing up blog posts and sharing with everyone my little world and maybe one day I may get the fees paid for me, I will just keep blogging and do what makes me happy.
    Look forward to your next post

    Claire xx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      April 10, 2019 / 1:27 pm

      Ahhh Claire welcome to the blog and thank you so much for your kind words. Im so glad that you have found me. Ah thats great that you love writing your blog, I feel the same way. Its wonderful to write isnt it. Affiliate links etc are a tough nut to crack for sure, they require a lot of blog traffic to get any decent money from them. Im always happy to answer anything you think I could help with, feel free to email me. We are all in this together xxx Thank you so much for reading xx

  11. April 23, 2019 / 5:48 pm

    I absolutely loved reading this! Kerry you always get it so spot on, I’m so happy I met you via this lovely blogging world! I’m just like you where I do it for my love of writing and getting to experience some really fun things along the way have made it feel extra special! I’m not about that follower life, its all just too much! xxxx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      April 23, 2019 / 10:39 pm

      Thank you so much, I am so glad it resonates with you. I think we are blooming lucky to enjoy this hobby, with some beautiful perks along the way. I have full respect for people that do it as a job, but I just want to always enjoy and love it like I do now, with no pressure. That in itself feels like success to me xxxxx

  12. June 18, 2019 / 9:03 am

    So doing this straight off the cuff as requested my order is probably thus:
    1. Page views (sharing my stories)
    2. Opportunities (press trips, evening events in London)
    3. Upskilling for the dayjob, e.g. Google Analytics & WordPress.
    4. A small residual income (still <£1000 a year for now)

    • kerrylifeandloves
      June 18, 2019 / 9:57 am

      I think that’s a pretty good list! Page views is a great one as it means what we write is actually being read. I think I monitor that stat the most! Thank you for your input, much appreciated x

  13. October 21, 2019 / 6:40 pm

    Im with you Kerry , i love to write my blog, id love more readers. I’d love someone to say they went somewhere because they read my blog. If i made money off it ( anything) id be chuffed to bits but ultimately I love to travel and i love to write and that’s it.

    • kerrylifeandloves
      October 21, 2019 / 9:15 pm

      Hi Laura, thank you for reading. I find it so interesting how everyone views success. I am at the stage now where I would like to earn now and again, simply to keep the blog a free hobby! With blog hosting, little online courses, any other cost that is associated with the blog, it can cost more than you think cant it!

      • October 21, 2019 / 9:21 pm

        I do my writing courses at a writing studio but yes they aren’t free. Discovering blogging was a revelation to me. I only learned a few years ago that it was a thing lol. I then had to over come thr self doubt of who wants to read anything I write! ( still working on that one)

        • kerrylifeandloves
          October 21, 2019 / 9:35 pm

          Ahhh bless you, I know exactly what you mean! I was the same. I still have moments where I question myself! My husband always tells me to just enjoy it, work hard on it and if any little bonuses come along with it, then lovely. That is how I try to view it now. Always happy to chat over email/messenger etc if you ever want blog chat lol xxx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      October 23, 2019 / 6:18 pm

      Hi Em, I totally agree with you. It feels so good to have people read and engage doesn’t it. Thank you so much for joining the discussion x

  14. Victoria Austin
    March 17, 2020 / 11:28 am

    I always love reading your posts! I used to blog for fun then felt I had to be chasing some big goal with it because everyone else seemed to be but honestly? The rules make it so much more complicated now (I nearly completely quit blogging & making YouTube videos again last year) so now I’m blogging for fun again. Success to me now is making posts I’m proud to look back on. That’s it! I’m also writing two fictional books. xx

    • March 17, 2020 / 11:50 am

      Ah thank you so much! I am so glad you enjoy xx I think we can get swept up in what we feel we should be doing don’t we. I seem to go through stages of putting pressure on myself haha! Writing a book is my ultimate dream. It is one of the main reasons I started a blog in the first place. Well done you xxxx

  15. November 18, 2020 / 8:35 am

    Absolutely loved reading this Kerry. Think we needed it right now. Like you, we started our blog just to write and from that point of view it’s already been a success. We enjoy the process and learning and that makes us happy too. We’re not great on Social Media – probably spending far too much time on it but feel a bit guilty about our lack of interaction- so we love what you said about it. It really helps. Thank you 😊

    • November 18, 2020 / 9:29 am

      Thank you so much for reading, and I am over the moon that you feel it has helped. I think social media is such a balancing act. It is a double edged sword. We have to have it as bloggers, but it is such a stealer of time! I love the learning too. I just struggle to implement what I learn haha!

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