Revisiting or Setting New Goals – Working out my Shiz!

Just a little quick update/catch up post from me today. I am one of those people that always has to have a goal in mind, or a target that I am working towards. Its just my make up. I don’t like doing things without purpose. Im not talking about things like having fun with friends/family etc, Im talking about things that take time and energy from my daily life. I have felt a little lost lately, and like I have lost sight of my goals, so, prompted by my lovely Insta-friend Monai_Lifestyle, I decided to sit down and re-visit and re-set my goals.

Now, it could very well be the time of year. It could be the situation that myself and my family has been in for the last year. It could even be the fact that my sons are growing up, becoming totally independent, wayyyyy too quickly lately. Whatever the reason, I have felt a little “lost to the breeze”. Like Im going through the motions of day to day life, but don’t really have a purpose or focus. A little like Iv lost my mojo. I don’t know what Im working towards! Does anyone else get that? I thought I would break each area of my life down, and see where I am at with it all, and also re-visit my goals set at the start of the year in this post, Setting Goals for the New Year.


I am bored, yet I love my job. Work that one out! See, no wonder I am confused! I really enjoy my work as a skincare therapist, and, in total honestly, it pays me well for the two and a half days I do. I love my clients, I love that I work at the end of my garden, but I feel restless. I feel un-challenged. I feel like its just a job, and I have NEVER felt that way. I said in my New Years Goals post back in December, that I wanted to reduce my hours slightly, to make time for another little business venture that I wanted to explore, and free up some time to get my 20-year-in-the-making book finished. I haven’t done this. My Mum said to me on my birthday last week, “Kerry, Its time to make time. Get that book finished” I am still working the same hours, so earlier this week, I sat and blocked out two days a month from my work diary for the rest of the year. Its a start. I have started trying to finalise all of the characters in my story, and re-read/re-jig the two chapters I have written. I have registered the business name, secured the domain name and set up the social media handles of the new little venture I want to start. I have made small steps, but I aim to set myself a timeline of when I want it to be underway. Almost like setting a deadline. Only I can make it happen eh!

General Life

After the last twelve months we have had, where everything has been on hold,  I craved adventure and new experiences. My husband felt the same way so we said that we would try to experience something new every month from January. This hasn’t worked out quite the way we hoped, we have had a few rough weeks along the way, but moving forward, we will. Nik finished his chemo last month, he is starting to feel well again, so we need to get planning! He hasn’t been given the go ahead to travel yet, and he does have another operation that he has to have, but we do have a break in Bath planned for May, of course our Mountain climb in September, and we do have a holiday booked for July to Cape Verde. we are keeping our fingers crossed he gets the go ahead to get on the plane! I was also shocked but thrilled, when Nik gave me a trip to New York with my Mum for my birthday, for later in the year! I cannot wait!

Central Park from Rockafella centre
Central Park

My Blog

I love my little blog, and it is still one of my favourite things to do. I don’t write to a schedule, I don’t have a real niche, and I love that, but, Iv been thinking for a while, I do want to make some changes to it. I have a couple of new series starting, and I will be more structured in how I post. For my own sanity rather than anything else! One of the new series I have starting this weekend, is “Be Your Own Skincare Expert” and its in response to the amount of you, (who know what I do as my day job) who message me with skincare related questions. Im excited by it, and so grateful to Kirsty at Unseen beauty for saying just a few words to me that gave me the little bit of confidence I needed to launch the series. I have always wanted to do skincare advice posts, but worried that I could come across way to geeky, or a skincare bore if I really talked about it all the way I do in my job. However, it would seem that many of you would be interested in me breaking the confusion of skincare down a bit, so I am thrilled that I get to geek out a bit here on my blog.

My blog is relaxed and incredibly fulfilling. I am shocked (and thankful) of how my readership has grown, (thank you so much for reading and sticking with me) but so grateful. I just love writing on it. As we all well know by now, social media is never, ever going to be my favourite thing, but, after my Instagram experiment, I understood that yes its a useful tool, but so little of my traffic comes from there, its no biggy. This was great for me as I always worried that I don’t worry about it. Does that make sense?  I have never had any aspirations for my blog to become my job, and still don’t. Yes, I like doing the occasional collaboration post, (and am more than happy for make up and skincare items to be thrown at me, haha) but its not something I crave to do a lot of as I don’t want my blog to ever feel like a chore. Its just my outlet for writing and sharing. Thats it. My book is my real writing ambition, always has been, but my blog is my little corner of the internet that Im proud of, get a lot from, and blooming love.

cup of fruit tea and a book

My Well Being

This is one area that I have failed at miserably since the start of the year. Im not sure if its a Mum thing, or just a woman thing, but we always put ourselves last don’t we! I make sure Nik and the boys have what they need, but never get my hair done, go for a pamper, go clothes shopping. I haven’t re-started my yoga classes that I swore I was going to do, although I have just started the Couch to 5 K app again. I am two runs in, I forgot how hard it was to start! I haven’t got myself into a regular healthy eating routine. Im still fly by the seat of my pants and see what happens! I need to learn to plan and organise this side of my life more. I need to not feel guilty for spending money and time on me.  If anyone has any tips for getting healthy eating habits sewn up, I would be grateful to hear them! I have managed to read more, which is something that I was missing badly. I think I have got through about 7 books so far this year. Its been fab getting back to reading. Again, any book recommendations, hit me with them!  Some of the ones I have really enjoyed are;

Ragdoll by Daniel Cole                                                        Jo Malone Autobiography

Then She Was Gone by Lisa Jewell                                    Pretty Girls by Karin Slaughter

So, thats about it. It has been a useful exercise re-visiting and re-setting my goals. It has given me some focus. Some idea of what I want to do, where I want to go. I think its something we should all do on a regular basis. It also helps you see what you need to do to achieve, as well as see what you have already got under your belt.

Is this something you do? Are you a goal setter? Are you a planner? Do you have any tips for me on organising time better, or healthy eating habits? Do you feel like you are working towards any goals or resolutions you set yourself? Id love to hear any progress or successes! Does the sound of my new series appeal to you?




  1. Nesha
    April 12, 2018 / 3:29 pm

    Seriously this is me , I feel like I’m aimlessly walking through life right now . Love my job but bored , can’t sort out eating habits , craving adventure !!! I think we all go through periods like this, but this has inspired me to get organised and set real goals xx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      April 12, 2018 / 3:38 pm

      Well, that makes me happy if you feel a little inspired x. Its a weird feeling isn’t it, its like I start something, cant focus, move on to something else etc. I don’t finish anything and I know its because of my lack of focus. It really does help to sit and reassess where you are aiming for, and what your goals are. It really did help me xxx

  2. April 13, 2018 / 1:10 am

    Setting daily goals one step at a time is sometimes best to relieve the pressure. Also, it would be useful if you did posts on beauty. I know I would find it useful, especially coming from a specialist like you. 🤗

    • kerrylifeandloves
      April 13, 2018 / 8:15 am

      I think you are so right, I know I can feel overwhelmed sometimes so breaking it down makes me feel more in control. Im so glad you like the idea of more skincare posts, Im excited to share them. Im hoping to get the first one up on Sunday. Thank you for reading xx

  3. April 13, 2018 / 12:33 pm

    I’ve been sitting here reading your post whilst eating lunch between stripping beds and cleaning bathrooms … This is how I rock on school holidays…. and thinking that I could ( But I won’t ) be writing exactly the same thing on my blog! I love my job, but am bored with it. I want to cut down my hours to do other things and I need to look after me by eating healthily and exercise more. But it’s easier said than done isn’t it! It’s so easy to just rattle through life with great plans in our heads and just never do it. Write that book to start with. Focus on your blog that you and lots of us love and get the skincare posts going. I just slather any old cream on my face so could really do with advice. Be bold, be brave and do what you want to do!

    From one who needs to follow her own advice! xx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      April 13, 2018 / 1:56 pm

      Ohhh I rock and roll exactly the same way, I hear ya! haha. I wonder if its an age thing? I do wonder if its because there is that feeling of if I dont do it now, when? I really have failed with the wellbeing thing, (Iv literally just ate 3 jaffa cakes) and I know that I need to start looking after myself better. I think I take my health and my body for granted. Do you? I did find this exercise very useful to do, it helped me remember what I am actualy striving for, I lose sight of that sometimes amongst the “life” stuff. What is it YOU would like to do? Do you crave a new job, or just want to slow down a bit? Write your goals post, (Id love to read them). Thank you so much for stopping by, and your words of encouragement. I do need to stop procrastinating and just do! I really appreciate your comment xxxx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      April 13, 2018 / 1:57 pm

      Actually, I just remembered. Cookery School! You should do it! xx

  4. April 13, 2018 / 9:27 pm

    Aww thanks for the mention, and glad you decided to go ahead with the new series. I think you’ll get a lot of interest.
    I’ve found sometimes it helps to put all kinds of things in the diary, even ones that aren’t work-related because self-care is one of those things you can keep putting off till you have more time. But somehow that time never comes. That’s the only way I’ve found to get my exercises done!Have a lovely weekend XX

    • kerrylifeandloves
      April 13, 2018 / 10:11 pm

      Thats so true actually. I need to get myself organised and sorted. Im a massive procrastinator when I have lost focus! Thank you lovely, you have a great weekend too x

  5. The Laura Jessica
    April 14, 2018 / 4:13 am

    Love this. Today I treated myself to a concert ticket. I felt guilty at first but then I’m like I haven’t been out in a year. I deserve this and you deserve to pamper yourself. You can’t look after everyone else if you’re not looking after yourself! You deserve it so go for it!!! Book an appointment. As for everything else. It will fall into place 🙂 x xx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      April 14, 2018 / 6:59 am

      Thank you, I think your right! Its ridiculous how we worry about treating ourselves. Im glad you bought the ticket, go and live it up for the night! Thanks for reading lovely xx

  6. April 14, 2018 / 10:19 pm

    I have lots of goals and never enough time! I am the most unorganised person on the planet! Don’t cut those therapy hours too much, you may need time to give me a pamper! We can talk blog!
    Laurie xx

    • kerrylifeandloves
      April 15, 2018 / 8:46 am

      Hahahaha! Laurie, I always love to talk blog! I hear you loud and clear! I too am the most unorganised person. I write a million to-do’s then ignore them and do other stuff that can wait! We are our own worst enemy eh! Thank you for popping over xxx

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